One of my friends just went through a pretty bad breakup and is talking about just moving to a new city to start over. Obviously I don't want her to go, and I think if she stays here she'll at least have people she knows to lean on and help her get through this. I just think piling on a new job, new apartment, and new city onto what she's already going through is going to be really isolating and more to deal with. Am I just being clouded by what I want though? Am I being too selfish? Thanks! — Concerned Friend
What We're Sippin': Chilled Sauvignon Blanc
Where We're Sippin': On the couch in front of the computer, where new, fabulous (more local) adventures/experiences are just a few Google searches away.
Mother Teresa
This notion that you should move to another country or city to get over something or someone is BS because you are bringing everything with you. Your baggage comes with you, figuratively and literally. Your friend will bring her heartbreak with her wherever she goes. That’s not the answer. I don’t think you’re being selfish, I think you have every right to be concerned. You should talk to her and tell her that location does not a happy singleton make.
Ginger Ále
Oof, Mother Teresa with the callout! But she’s right. There is no country far enough, no time zone opposite enough, and no city sparkly enough (Paris may come close though) that will make your friend stop missing her ex. Especially in these times where everyone is just a few social media click/taps away. This is important for your friend to understand, so I would explain it to her. However, I also know that we are all stubborn when it comes to how we handle ourselves in our relationships. If she is set on moving, make sure she is being realistic. I definitely don’t think you’re being selfish. I think you’re being the realistic one. Share the wealth.
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