Hi! So one of my friends was seeing a girl before he went to study abroad. Yesterday I found out that three of our mutual friends got drunk at a party one night and made out with this girl and her friends in a game of truth or dare. Now my friend who’s abroad isn’t speaking to anyone except for me but also doesn’t want me talking to these other friends. I’ve known these guys since we were in pre-school together and though it was stupid what they did, I can’t stand to see an entire group of life-long friends break apart because of something so dumb. How do I convince my friend that, even though his feelings are valid, we can still figure out a way to build our group back up again?
— Anonymous
What We're Sippin': Ice-cold Heineken
We know it's not wine, but it's as universally liked as the Pinot Grigio. Let the frothy, iced glass or bottle calm your soul and consider sharing one with a friend. Connection is a good thing.
Where We're Sippin': Think dive bar on a random weekday. We're not here to get sloshed, we're here to be around new energy and new friendly faces.
Mother Teresa
Everyone makes mistakes and alcohol clouds our judgment every time. It sounds like things here got very cloudy. Though you respect your friend's feelings, he cannot impose those same feelings onto anyone. There is a saying in Spanish that translates quite literally to “no one can buy the argument of another person.” So fight your fight kid, just don’t let anyone convince you that you have to fight theirs.
Ginger Ále
Yikes. I've been in your study-abroad-friend's shoes. From experience I can say there is no real way of knowing how you take something like betrayal until you're actually going through it. Not a lot of people understand that. But you, my beautiful little goody-two-shoes have a unique opportunity here to be both a good friend and a good group member. What your friend needs now is to feel supported and anything but alone. Hear him out, be there for him when he wants to vent. But don't let him define how you go about your relationships with others in the group, because those are important to you as well. You may not be able to be the glue that holds the house together (trust me the one that ends up exhausted and resentful will be you.) But you can be the friendly bouncer at the door, ready to let friends in, whenever they choose to show up.
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