I feel really insecure about my body count and I don’t know if my partner’s number is way higher or lower than mine. How can I bring it up without sounding accusatory or jealous?
— Anonymous
What We're Sippin': A big fat shot of tequila
The key here is confidence. Not saying you can drink it in, but we like to think they don't call it liquid courage for nothing.
Where We're Sippin': In front of the bathroom mirror. Preferably with some sort of 90's R&B in the background to remind you how fabulous you are as a human, not a sum of numbers.
Mother Teresa
What is a body count? Don’t we all only have one body? I’m confused.
Ginger Ále
It's the number of people you've been with...sexually.
Mother Teresa
WOW, where have I been? I can tell you where not to be, and that's in the past. What happens in the past, stays in the past. Body count, while interesting to discuss, shouldn’t actually matter or affect your relationship. If it's something that's bugging you, don't be afraid to bring it up. You got this.
Ginger Ále
Apart from the small lesson here, I agree with Mother Teresa. Personally, I consider this an interesting fact that I like to know about my partner, like their zodiac sign or how they take their coffee. If you're afraid of coming across as accusatory or jealous, simply ask the question as if you were asking about the weather. Maybe not so out of the blue, but it doesn't need to be a two-act play. The more important question you need to ask yourself is how you'll feel after your partner gives his/her answer.
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