I’m in a relatively new relationship (about 8-10 months) with this guy I like a lot. Our relationship started with an interest and a YOLO feel to it since when we started dating I knew there would be a chance I had to move. Fast forwarding to now, I did end up moving and I’ve been living another city. Before leaving my significant other and I decided to try out distance and see how it goes. Up until recently it’s been working pretty well; however, I think we’ve now left the honeymoon phase and are starting to experience some of the challenges with distance. I feel like we haven’t been able to clearly communicate with each other while we’re apart due to different schedules, things going on in our lives right now, etc. We‘ve both been getting really frustrated with each other and I’m not sure how to fix our communication or what to do next. — Communication, We Have a Problem
What We're Sippin': Pisco Sour
This drink, like friendships, can be complex. The more meticulous you are with picking and combining the ingredients, the more you'll enjoy it.
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Mother Teresa
What is YOLO?
Ginger Ále
It means "You Only Live Once."
Mother Teresa
Hmm, well, that’s true. So I think this is an important decision for you. I’m not sure it’s going to work. I think it’s a little hard to establish rules and understand behaviors with distance in the way. Generally, long distance does work, but after months of falling in love with who the person is. Distance is very hard to uphold when you’re “in like,” not “in love,” which it sounds like that’s where you are. But don’t lose hope! I would advise that you keep trying to talk. If he is as interested and as willing as you are to try and make it work, he will make the time to communicate, to text, to call, etc.
Ginger Ále
Okay, that’s a little savage. I’m a believer in love. If you like him? Fight for it. But you need to be sure that he is fighting for it too. Distance or not, a relationship only works if both parties are putting in the same amount of effort (or really showing that they want or intend to.) There will be challenges, yes, and probably more so since you’re not physically together. But that doesn’t mean you can’t work out your issues. Be upfront and honest, not just with him, but to yourself.
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